Thanks to all for your condolences.
Bill Pearce is right, the pain my father went through this time was relative
short, it was good. Although he was not totally trouble free in these few
years (he suffered the chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, need four
different inhalers and O2 for daily activities) but most of the time he was
ok without great pain.
I agree with Bill Barber, one should lets others know you love and
appreciate them. This is a bit difficult for the Chinese especially for
father and son, even less for the old generation. Although I tried to
fulfill all my father's need but I never say how I respect him and love him.
So, do it before it is too late.
C.H.Ling
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>
> C.H., My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time of
> great loss.
>
> Your sharing this very personal part of your life, had me reflect on my
> mother's passing 21 years ago . . . a time when I experienced a loss not
> unlike yours.
>
> To those reading these words, I will share, briefly, my experience. My
> mother was diagnosed with cancer in January and made her transition on Feb
> 3rd. We thought she had 6 to 9 months left . . . she didn't. What
> eased my
> pain at this time of great sorrow, was a completeness in our
> relationship.
> There was nothing left un-said between us. She knew, absolutely, that I
> loved her and she had been acknowledge for the commitment she had been to
> me throughout my life. This, a commitment, I credited for allowing the
> success I had experienced in my life. These words we shared were spread
> out
> over many years and were intentional.
>
> What I would share with each of you today is:
>
> Celebrate your relationships.
>
> Make peace, where peace is needed.
>
> Forgive yourself and others.
>
> Enjoy this moment.
>
> Leave nothing un-said that lets others know you love and appreciate them.
> It is a gift to them and an even greater gift to yourself.
>
>
> Bill Barber
>
> PS - one way you can celebrate your relationships is through your
> imagery.
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